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Finding your flow

A year-and-a-half journey around the globe has been over. Stories of hundreds of people across six continents still followed in my diary and in my mind. And some of the most inspirational ones have deeply settled in because they left me wondering, reflecting, appreciating. I couldn’t help but lay them out in printed words some months later. But on the last leg of the hitch-hike expedition back from Africa, I suddenly experienced a sense of completion: the time to accept abundantly immaterial gifts from people across the planet has been over. Finally, now is the precise occasion to contribute back to the world.

The resilience I developed thanks to the adventures and hardships, sleeping rough and eating modestly, the insights of intimate and complex connection that I have cultivated trotting along the person 24/7 had to be passed over to the next off.

My background and passion for psychology and art psychotherapy have already given me a solid context to start encouraging and empower people to change or pursuing their dreams, visions, missions. Ad Majora natus sum, they taught me at school, we are born to do greater things. Working in mental health, leading the courses that help to improve people ’s self-esteem, emotional management, stress, assertive communication and increase wellbeing has been yet another stepping stone to arrive at the field of coaching and coaching psychology. It all seems to come together.

To resort to coaching psychology became crucial to me: I began to see people’s potential over their diagnosis or battles. Among the clouds of backgrounds and walks of life, I have witnessed people struggling to believe they are worth achieving higher because their unhelpful self-talk seems to be so present, so powerful. Despite the fact that some of them have already achieved remarkably well . They have been fighting their unhelpful thoughts and mental blocks for years. Deep down their motivation and strengths have been still dormant.

But many things can be changed, I learned again and again. If you seek to find your flow, if you identify your purpose, a goal in your mind, and you work towards it generating a plentitude of ideas, you will be able to achieve it. To help to reach that, I’m employing a range of tools and techniques.

  • The very classic GROW model that majority of coaches offer seems to open the gates of people thinking processes: looking closely at your goals, planning your journey toward them, considering the options to develop the proceeds, and how can you move on.
  • Cognitive Behavioural Coaching: working with a wide range of people I’ve observed how their unhelpful thoughts contribute to their unpleasant emotions and become embodied in the tensed shoulders, clutched fists and frowned foreheads, and how it leads into less helpful, often stagnant behaviours. Psychologists Neenan and Palmer describe:

CBC is a collaborative, goal-directed endeavour using multimodal learning methods to help individuals develop their capabilities and remove any psychological blocks that interfere with the process.

Overcoming procrastination, tackling poor time management, handling criticism constructively, dealing with troublesome emotions, taking risks and making better decisions - it all can be improved by being more aware of yourself and adjusting your thoughts, images, cognition.

  • The solution-focused approach, which helps people to dig for the solutions, rather than become experts in their problems. De Shazer puts it simply:

Problem talk creates problems, solution talk create solutions.

  • Positive psychology, being a forerunner in the scientific field, enrich my practices to focus on people ’s potential and strengths, their values, how to access the flow in whatever they perform. Martin Seligman says:

The aim of Positive Psychology is to catalyze a change in psychology from a preoccupation only with repairing the worst things in life to also building the best qualities in life.

  • For those, who work better in a creative way, I offer a range of possible tools/practices to reduce blocks. ‘Been there done that’ I say, having struggled myself to sit down and start writing the book to reflect on the journey. When the mind path has been cleared, I finally got into the flow and the days of writing have flown by. Julia Cameron inspired me to open up and take a leap of faith into the writing:

As we open our creative channel to the creator, many gentle but powerful changes are to be expected.

  • And I can offer some mindfulness-inspired practices for those interested in the ecopsychology and nature therapy, and how to seek for nature to improve their wellbeing and find a better connection with it and/or themselves.

I hold a person as the paramount source of potential, energy and enthusiasm. And even though I employ the best, mostly science-informed tools, techniques and approaches, I still believe that building the connection, the alliance that person can trust and be empowered, is the most important of all.

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